And what does "boy is boy and girl is girl" actually mean to you?

Simple, 'Boys have a pee pee and girls have a vagina' why does it need to be made more complicated than that? being a boy and liking girl stuff doesn't change your sex organs. We don't have to get rid of the biological sexes to git rid of unhealthy and needless gender stereotypes, just stop forcing boy = blue & guns, girl = pink & dolls etc.

Why would it enter a parent's mind to suggest to their three year old that they are a gender NOT in accord with their genitalia? Would this be a husband, perhaps, just trying to create some family discord?

because modern society now tells them to. There is a difference between letting a very young kid wear what they want and play with what they want than confusing them. kids that age will try very hard to please their parents. They shouldn't be put into the position of making such life altering decision of choosing what gender they are, until they actually understand what that means... like around the puberty years when they actually get their male/female hormones going.

As for the rape of minors, females taking advantage of males is under reported. First of all because the male goes into the female normally so the female is assumed to be subservient. if a young adult slept with a older female instead of people going exploitation!! they go, oh wow, you scored a couger, good job dude. In the law and order system when it comes to rape males and females are treated differently. This is a HUGE issue in colleges right now, do to policies enforced onto the schools by the federal government tied to aid money. and if you don't acknowledged this you are simply in denial. If males try to report being raped by a female they are often ostracized and blown off, this effects the stats. There are zero shelters for male victims of sexual abuse, their are zero services to assist them with law enforcement or the courts. On the other hand if a female is rapped there is a whole system to help her through the process that assumes the guilt of the male from the beginning. In many cases false rape accusations against men are not even punished. when it is discovered the male is 'allowed' not to be punished for something he didn't do, and the female is let off with a verbal slap on the wrist, or in the most extreme cases a minor prison sentence of ~6 months

Its like trusting crime statistics that say mexicans and blacks smoke more pot than whites in areas with stop and frisk where the cops search the blacks and mexicans for drugs on the street because of profiling, but let the professional looking whites go by unmolested. of course they will find a higher percentage of drugs on non whites, they are not even looking at the whites.

As for the patriarcy that was totally true before I was born, and yeah is still totally true in the political field, which is dominated by the old guard crew, the demographics there haven't shifted. however, get into family court in most states (especially coasts) and the female is heavily favored. As an example, in my state if you have a verbal argument with someone, and the neighbors hear and call the police, they will come, and the male WILL goto jail, AND get a DV charge (which is an extremely serious charge here, it will fuck up your life for decades) unless the female practically begs the police not to and convinces them she should goto jail instead. they are mandated to arrest one person if they are called out for 'dv' period. The only way for the DV charge to not stick and jail time for the male to be freed if for the female refuses to show up at court. without witnesses they can't press charges, if the female shows up the court will compel them to testify against their roomate/lover. Trust me, I've been in the courtroom, and helped pay for the lawyers. Females also dominate in HR and have tons of power over the workplace.

While there is a ton of truth in what you say, and I don't doubt you are correct in many instances, you deal to much in extremisms. Yes there are some remnants of the patriarcy, but there is also a matriarcy now, and they both intertwine with each other in different aspect of our society. We are doing a terrible job at deleting gender biases, we are just making new biases in some areas in the other direction.

Feminists will not make much progress, because these days is not about male and female equality. its about 'male tears' and punishing us for the deeds of our ancestors.Gender equality won't be reach by oppressing men.

also, I didn't say I was a right winger, i'm at best a 'progressive liberal libertarian', a mix of alt-right and alt-left, extreme centrist if you insist in putting a label on me... I didn't even vote for trump. (nor hillary before you go making assumptions). I was fully on the left before they lost all sense of nuance and went to the extreme of "all white males are evil racist nazis".

I support female rights, but I also support not over doing it and still supporting the rights of males, apparently these days that makes me a misogynist and literally hitler.

What STUDIES show is that USUALLY males are our REPORTED sexual abusers of children -- and that they are heterosexual males.

I am not debating this. but it still ignores that some are females, and a tiny fraction are even gay. it might be rare but it happens. The problem with your view, is it lets that minority off scot free. This is the same problem voaters on this site have when it comes to race.. yeah studies show that ~80 of blacks are 'below the average' when it comes to fitting into civilized society... but that doesn't mean we should oppress the ~20% who fit in and are decent honest productive members of society. Just because most pedos are straight males doesn't mean we should turn a blind eye to crimes committed by the rest, even if they are a rarity. if the police and courts turn a blind eyes because its 'only the men' than the exploitation will continue and youths will be damaged.

p.s., even betsy devos agrees with me , she is trying to fix the policy of unfair sexual assault proceedings against males in colleges. good thing not everyone in the matriarchy thinks like you ;) <3

half of these kids are just heterosexuals who want to co-opt another group's struggle as their own for attention.

if you are a girl and you identify as a ~nonbinary agender~ or whatever suddenly you can claim you're an "oppressed queer person" even though you still only date natal men and you look like a girl.

just as the "transgender women" are calling themselves lesbians, fucking up the gay rights movement, and trying to get gay women to sleep with them while convincing us all they're "oppressed LGBT" when they're obviously beta heterosexuals who think being a failed man = being a woman.

Yeah, they are easy enough to avoid. As a gay guy I just avoid all wemons period. They are ALL SJW's, and if they try to get close to me (they always do, females always want to latch onto gay dude for some reason as fag hags, or whatever and convert them to boyfriends) I just trigger them. 'Did you hear? NSA had all killarys missing emails and the FBI refused to take them', they respond like "TRUMP CANT LEAD THIS CONTRY!! HES RACIISST", 'Yeah, I'm with you about I don't agree with all his policies fully, but hes doing a great job at locking up the pedos that are infiltrating our government, mayer of NY, AG of cali..' "REEEE!!! runs screaming ", I litterly had that exact exchange with a female who was around when I went to chill with a bud of mine this weekend.